Friday, October 03, 2008

Something to live by...

"Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect – and I don't live to be. But before you start pointing fingers… Make sure your hands are clean. "

What a great quote from Bob Marley…

Lately I have really been examining my own life including those people that I have surrounded myself with. It is funny how the one’s who make the most admitted mistakes seem to be the most real. I guess this is a lesson you learn with age and at the ripe ol' age of 33. It is a lesson I am and have been learning for the last few years.

The second question I have been pondering is “Do as I say, not as I do” now I know we all have been here before but is this really a good saying to live by…Do I really want my girls to see me judging/gossiping about people for thier imperfections when we all have them. I want my kids growing up learning that no one is perfect we all make mistakes and you stand by the people you love through thick and thin no matter what.

If I am at home bashing and judging I am only hurting myself and creating a false sense of truth for my children. As they get older they would ask, or at least think to themselves, “Wow, that adult made an admitted mistake but even worse their “friends” are not being supportive but rather judgmental” this is not a good thing to create. I guess my bottom line is we all need to remember as adults we are the example so ask yourself, are you living in a way where the children and teens in our lives see a good example or just a lame excuse for adults doing what they want and getting away with it?


sc00by said...

True words Lisa. We are all a work in progress...tolerance and love are lessons worth teaching. I was blessed with the coolest guy in the world for a Dad. I am grateful for the lessons he taught me, and have tolerance, hope and love for those who haven't learned them yet... Love, not perfection, is the goal.

I would like to share my late Dad's favorite poem, and mine, with you:

by Rudyard Kipling


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

Heather said...

So hard to do, but so true, and definitely worth it for our kids. The days of sarcasm, being judgmental, and assumption are something we need to bury before the next generation catches on. Sad that not everyone is as thoughtful as you, but we can try to change the world a little bit at a time. Our kids will carry on the values we instill in them and hopefully plant the seeds for the future generations. This world will be a nice place to live someday. Love you.. Heather

Ava Jewel Leilani said...

So true Lisa.

Tes said...

So very true. thanks.

SLK said...

Lisa that was very well put! I agree with you, we are trying to achieve the same goals in life! With the right friends we can do that! Sad that some judge and even more sad they judge things that they dont have any clue about! Love you!!

Julie said...

I try very hard not to judge others because I have made way to many mistakes in my life. I am hopefully a better mom and person than I was 10 years ago from learning from my errors in life. I can only hope that I have passed on some of this to my kids.

Lisa said...

the reactions from this post have been funny...Amazing What guilt does to people HAHAHAHA...

Nancy said...

That's a good reminder, Lisa. I always did respect people who admitted they screwed up here and there or aren't perfect.

I love the Bob Marley quote. :)